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THE Ultimate List of Black Mommy Bloggers!

I started blogging back in …. 2013 I think under a different name. Back then I wasn’t a mommy or even expecting but the main blogs that I read were mommy blogs because I have a weird thing about being interested in other peoples lives (anyone else addicted to Family Vlogs on YouTube?). I read a lot of lifestyle blogs but I kept finding myself being drawn to more family/parenting oriented blogs and that’s still a lot of what I read today.

When I became pregnant with RJ I searched for mommy blogs written by black women and they aren’t always as easy to find as the “other” blogs are. This really has so much to do with the fact that we aren’t supporting each other to our full capacity. Luckily, I became a part of an amazing community of women [BLM] where I connected with bloggers of ALL kinds but I still wanted to take the opportunity to put my mommy bloggers on the forefront.

If you are looking for mommy blogs written by WOC then here is a list of amazing blogs you can choose from.

 

*updated March 2019*

Lifestyle/Family Blogs – Tips, tricks, & advice given from real moms about real life.

– My Mommyvents

–The Green Eyed Lady Blog

–Ok, Dani

–Unlikely Martha

–La La Land Mommy

–Mommy Week

–BeeSoSimple

–MimiCuteLips

–Love, Peace and Tiny Feet

–Moms ‘N Charge

–The Bernetta Style

–YUMMommy

–TheMrsTee

–Rattles & Heels

–Lovely You Blog

–Niecyisms and Nestlings

–Cherish365

–What MJ Loves

–Harlem Lovebirds

–MrsWrightWrites

–Simply T Nicole

–Rich Single Momma

–Product Review Mom

–Cleverly Changing

–CouponWAHM

–Black Moms Blog

–Moms with Tots

–A Life of Authenticity

–SobeSavvy

–Naturally Stellar

–The Crunchy Mommy

–Ms Naturally Random

–Mamademics

–Mommy Sees You

–JenOni

–Aprons and Stilletos

–Its Me, Lady G

–Travel with the Russells

–Camesha Mama Motivator

–Mommys Dressing Room

–Houseful of Nicholes

–Kendra Pierson

–Green & Gorgeous

–Nakisha Wynn

–Wine’ing Momma

–A Mom That Sleeps

–BeBright Daily

–Charlene Tanwing

–The Kerri Chronicles

–Three Boys and An Old Lady

–Clarissa Joi

–Nicole’s Lifestyle Lounge

–Life in Pumps

–Mommy Talk Show

–Divas with a Purpose

–Teniesha Biagas

–Natural High

–Gennatay

–Jessica Simien

–N.Chi’s World

–My Mommy Flies

–Tales of a Mommy 2 Be

–Just a BX Mom

–Sisterhued

–Dellah’s Jubilation

–Juggling Family Life

–Unapologetically Shee

Fashion/Style/Beauty Blogs – Moms that bring the fashion game.

–Frugal Flirty N Fab

–Hypnoz Glam

–So She Writes by Miss Dre

–Rattles and Heels

–Bianca Dottin

–Happily Ever Natural

–Life in Pumps

–Autum Love

Health/Wellness Blogs – Natural parenting, self care & getting your life together.

–Ok, Dani

–Mommy R+R

–Brooklyn Active Mama

–Peace Filled Mama

–Orchids + Sweet Tea

–N.Chi’s World

–Deja Vu Organics

–Healing Mama Remedies

Single Parenting – Mom’s that remind you that you can slay all by yourself.

– Kaywanda Lamb

–Nakisha Wynn

–Just a BX Mom

–NYC Single Mom

“Unique” Blogs – Bringing you something a little different.

–Walk One Day in Our Shoes – Walk One Day in this mom’s shoes as she shows you how autism effects her nonverbal 10 year old daughter.

–Type 4 Naturals  – Kat is one of 3 contributors to Type 4 Naturals and writes about family on this “natural hair” blog.

–Socamom  – A Carribean parenting blog

–The Mixed Up Blog – Raising multicultural children, culture and cultural issues.

–Belly Itch Blog – Parenting, Pregnacy and Celebrity Pregnancy

–Here Wee Read – A blog about children’s and adult books.

–Joy in the Ordinary – Chronicling the journey of an African-American homeschool mom.

–Chaton’s World – A working mom’s quest for balance in stilettos (work/life balance).

–Leslie Allison – Mommy vlogger.

–The MOM Trotter – Have kids, will travel (Travel and home/worldschooling).

–The Moms Guide – For the professional Mommy raising kids and balancing high powered careers.

And there it is! Explore! Find some new blogs to read! And don’t forget to tell them Life with Tanay sent you!

Do you have a favorite mommy blog that wasn’t included on this list? Are you a mommy blogger that would like to be added to the list? Leave a comment below or feel free to contact me.

February 23, 2017 By
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Boy Moms Come Together to Tell You Why #BlackBoysAreBrilliant

Especially now following the Olympics, #BlackGirlMagic is literally oozing down my timeline. It’s everywhere, everyday, all the time. And it’s NEEDED. It is so important for little girls and even big girls to see that representation and have people remind them constantly that girls and woman that look just like them are doing amazing things everyday. I love it. 

But I’m a boy mom. And I’m always looking for other examples of intelligent and inspiring black boys/men because I think about the examples I want to show my son all the time. It’s hard out here y’all. Is anyone else finding examples that I’m missing? I’m talking about beyond rapping and basketball. Boys aren’t celebrated the same way girls are. And if they are it isn’t nearly on the same scale as girls are. 

RJ is brilliant! At less than two years old he sings his ABCs and dances/sings every time he hears music. He loves to give kisses and “read books” and he can work some electronics better than me! He’s a meanie sometimes, but everyone loves him. He is learning sooooo quickly and I can’t wait to see what types of things he loves to do as he gets older/smarter. 

I asked some of my mommy friends to share why their sons were brilliant. Check out the gallery below to find out why other boy moms agree that #blackboysarebrilliant (and click the pics to check out some other great blogs!).  

Are you a boy mom? Auntie? Sister? Leave a comment below and share why you think #blackboysarebrilliant. Follow me on Instagram, and share a picture using the hashtag #blackboysarebrilliant! The world deserves to know. ;).

August 12, 2016 By
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My Son Was Born Black… And I’m Heartbroken

When I was pregnant I worried about a million different things. I worried about my baby’s health, if I was going to figure out motherhood, if we’d be happy, if I was capable of raising a well adjusted child when I didn’t feel like I had my own ish together. I worried and worried. And he was born. And I began to worry a little bit less.

Minutes old. I love this picture. He's still a screamer. Lol

Minutes old. I love this picture. He’s still a screamer. Lol

But when you’re a mother the worry never truly goes away. He eats, you worry if he’s eating enough. He coughs, you worry about the flu and other illness. He falls, your heart stops every single time. 

I can't find the date (of course) but I'm guessing this is from when he was around 6 months old  

I can’t find the date (of course) but I’m guessing this is from when he was around 6 months old  

All of these worries PALE in comparison to my new found worry. The guilt that I feel today especially for giving birth to my son knowing…. he would be black. My sweet innocent baby is going to have to come face to face with the injustice of our government and on the path we’re on its probably going to be sooner rather than later. 

I asked his father today, while #AltonSterling is fresh on everyone’s mind. “What are we going to do? How are we going to tell our innocent baby about the evils of this world?” He attempted to respond …

“We’ll just tell him the truth. When you go out govern yourself accordingly…..” 

*I cut him off* 

“He doesn’t have to be doing anything wrong… He could just be walking outside”… #TrayvonMartin…. “He could be playing in the park!” #TamirRice

His solution (not a real one LOL)… RJ is never going anywhere lol. When he goes to school he’s going to sleep outside in the car and he’s just never going to go anywhere alone. 

 

In all seriousness though I can’t help but feel a combination of guilt and heartbreak. What do I tell my son the job of the police is? I used to hear “they protect you from the bad guys”, but is a man standing outside of a corner store selling loose cigarettes really a BAD GUY? #EricGarner. Does forgetting to signal and then being frustrated about being disrespected and mistreated when you’re pulled over make you “bad”? #SandraBland

He’ll be dehumanized. They’ll talk about the pack of M&Ms he stole in the fifth grade and the fight he got into with one of his classmates, whether or not they know the full story. It’ll be his fault. The color of his skin automatically makes him a threat. Unapproachable and undeserving of the liberties we fought so hard to supposedly obtain. Thug. Criminal. Aggressive. He’ll be labeled. The saddest part? He doesn’t even have to be an adult anymore. He can be a CHILD. And his life won’t matter. 

 

This is the world I brought my angel into. My little boy who loves to dance, and play. Laugh and run and watch cartoons. Drink juice (nonstop!) and eat pizza. This will one day be his reality. And it breaks my heart. I can’t cry, hope and pray enough. Lord, protect my baby.

 #justiceforall

#BlackLivesMatter

 

July 7, 2016 By
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Weaning Woes Pt. 1 I Just Want My Body Back

Look at the chub! That's probably 90% mommy milk right there!  

Look at the chub! That’s probably 90% mommy milk right there!  

My baby is a big boy. That’s no secret. Everyone comments on how big he is and how tiny I am. I used to love seeing people’s surprised looks when they asked what formula he drank and I could tell them he was breastfed. Yup! That’s ALL ME! *hits dougie*

But …. my baby is a big boy! He’s going on 16 months old and this kid has no desire to give up his milk. Even with eating 3 times a day and snacking we still fight most days to avoid breastfeeding. 

I loved it in the beginning. It was a need no one else could fulfill for him. But he doesn’t necessarily NEED it anymore. I know there are benefits to extended breastfeeding but I’m OVER it. There are also way more benefits to sane mommas… and that matters more. I am at the point where I dread feeding. I literally feel like he’s draining me. He’s already 1/4 of my weight and I’ve got 25 years on him. 

I’m ready to have my body back to myself. And how come no one ever told me about the twiddling?!? Nonstop! He acts like if he doesn’t live with his hand down my shirt.. my boobs may run away and he won’t ever get the milk again. It’s tiring. 

All day. 

All day. 

I’ve read a hundred million weaning techniques but none of them cut it. I feel like I’m going to have to just cut him off. 

Seriously I'm not joking. 

Seriously I’m not joking. 

Lmao his face!  

Lmao his face!  

And let’s not even talk about the toll it’s taking on my wardrobe! The neck of every shirt I own is probably stretched to capacity. He will FIGHT! To get those chubby little fingers in there.  

I love this kid and I love the breastfeeding relationship we’ve had thus far but I’m done. We need a break. I want to be touched a little bit less lol. I just want my body back.  

How long did you breastfeed? What method of weaning worked for you? Is anyone else a slave to their toddler?! LOL   

February 8, 2016 By
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Getting Your Toddler Ready for Your Holiday Photoshoot

We took our Christmas pictures last Tuesday and I was honestly dreading it. RJ is at the age (13 months) where stranger anxiety is REAL and I just knew he was going to act a PLUM FOOL all up in the studio. Thankfully it went amazingly and we got some great shots! I figured id share with you some of the things I did to prep him for our family shoot.

1. As with everything toddler-related. Timing is everything. RJ took a GOOD nap about an hour before we were going to leave the house. I knew he’d be in a MUCH better mood if he wasn’t tired/cranky on top of being in a new environment. SO once the yawning started, I didn’t even try to fight unscheduled nap time.

2. Take group pictures first. Because chances are if you just walk into the studio and plop them down to take solo pics you aren’t going to get any good shots. I literally had to fight the grip this kid had on me. He was not going anywhere for like the first 15 minutes. 

3. Have someone you know take the pictures/DIY it. We used a Groupon for JCP portraits but if you have the equipment and the eye you can take your portraits right at home! Being in a familiar environment will definitely ease some of the stress your toddler may feel and you have unlimited access to their favorite toys/books/whatever makes them happy! If you have a relative/familiar friend that’s into photography the same concept applies! 

4. Practice makes perfect! I probably harassed RJ all week telling him to say cheese lol so when we were actually at the studio (and he was over the fear of standing up alone) he knew what I was talking about. He still didn’t smile AS hard, but he wasn’t screaming his head off so I’ll take it as a win. Plus I got some hilarious cheesy faces during the whole prep period 

   

5. Just go with it. Nothing stresses your child out more than YOUR stress. So make sure you’re in the right state of mind to help them feel completely comfortable. Things aren’t going to be 100% perfect and at the end of the day everyone will understand because ummmm….. toddlers! And your pictures will be super cute either way!

Enjoy the craziness of toddlerhood before you have moody hormonal teenagers who won’t appreciate family portrait time LOL.

*groupon link is a referral link*

December 16, 2015 By
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